The Rules I Live By

**Disclaimer**  This post contains my opinions on religion. It’s not a post about religion, I just touch on it a little bit.  If this triggers or bothers some people, I just wanted to give a warning before the actual post.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about life lately.  Deep thinking.  I consider myself to be a deep thinker the majority of the time.  I was raised with the Catholic and Christian faiths.  This isn’t a post about religion, not sure if I’m quite ready to go there yet, but I guess in a way I am going to touch on it a little, but not too much.  Part of having a religion is having rules and principles on which we live and base our lives.  These past six years, I have spent a lot of time challenging my beliefs, values, and ways of thinking.  I have thought a lot about my faith in God, and my following of the Christian religion.  At one point, I had decided that Christianity wasn’t for me, but I still believed in God.  At another point, I had decided that I didn’t believe in God, or a deity at all.  And now, I am back to questioning myself all over again.  Currently, I do believe in the possibility of God, but I am not a fan of organized religion, for various reasons.  Although, I have many people in my life who I love and have deep respect for who do practice different religions… so let me be clear that this isn’t a post about bashing anyone’s personal beliefs.  I’m definitely not about that. In my thinking and in my questioning, I have decided that even though I personally don’t follow a religion, I do like the idea of having rules to live by.  What better way to start doing that then to write them out in a post? 😉  I am working on my health, both mentally and physically.  I am giving myself somewhat of a soul makeover.  And this is how I want to start it.  By making rules that I want to follow and live my life by.

Rule #1:  Make a Bucket List. Yep, that’s right.  I want to make a list of everything that I want to see and do before I die.  In fact, I’m pretty sure it’s going to be on one of my posts, at least, the first version of my bucket list.  And as I do these things, I want to write about each experience and how it made me feel to experience it.  It’s something that I want to be able to look back on, and for my kids to be able to look back on, once I do pass away.  I’m not dying (not that I know of) but this is something that is going to challenge me to actually do the things I want to do, rather than just thinking about one day doing them.

Rule #2:  Treat others and myself the way I would wish for my children to be treated. (Love myself and love others).

Sounds a little weird, I know, but sometimes we as adults tend to mistreat ourselves… in a manner of different ways and each other.  I feel like if I were to actually treat myself the way I would want my children to be treated, as well as others, I would be an all around more loving person towards myself, and towards my fellow human being.  It’s not always easy to be nice to everyone all of the time, but I want to be better at being a more kind and loving person.  I want to be less judgmental of others, and myself, and more understanding.  It’s hard to say the judgmental thing out loud, but as humans we all judge one another for a variety of different reasons, weather we’d like to admit it or not.

Rule #3:  Do something fun everyday, with my children. As grown ups, we forget what it’s like to be a kid and just let loose and have fun.  I want my kids to remember me as a loving mother who took the time to do at least one fun thing with them a day.  Weather it be something simple, like building a fort with blankets, cuddling up with popcorn and a movie, singing/dancing in the living room, to more extravagant activities such as going to a fair, taking them to a family fun center, etc..  It’s something that I know will benefit my mental health as well as theirs.  If you’re anything like me, you know how hard it is to make time to have fun when there are so many other obligations and things that need to be taken care of, but setting aside time for fun is necessary for our mental health.

Rule #4:  Do a random act of kindness to a stranger at least one per month or more if possible.

I have always been a believer in the goodness of humankind.  Even though it’s hard to believe sometimes with all that is going on in the world, I’d like to share that with others and encourage them to do the same.

Rule #5:  Take time to pray/meditate/reflect everyday.

We all need quiet time, time to pray, mediate, or reflect.  It’s good for our mental health.  I know that I don’t take the time to do this and I really want to start.

Rule #6:  Surround myself with positivity and positive people.  Make a real effort to keep in touch with the people I care about. Have healthy relationships.

Pretty self explanatory. Be with people who love you, and add something good to your life.   Maintain better contact with my closest friends.  Life gets busy, but spending time with friends and loved ones is a must.

Rule #7: Have a positive attitude even when it’s hard to.

It’s not always easy, but I  find that if I try and find the good in whatever situation I’m in that it helps me to look at it differently and makes it a little more bearable.

Rule #8:  Take nothing and no one for granted.

Take time to appreciate the small, yet wonderful things in life that we all often forget to think about.  Breathing, walking, seeing the beautiful sights of nature, smelling the rain, hugging the people we love, being able to wake up and have another day to live, my health, a place to live, etc..  Appreciate and love all of the people in my life with all of my heart, and be sure to let them know how much they mean to me.

Rule#9:  Limit technology time.

I don’t have Facebook, I don’t have Instagram or any social media.  Word press is as close as I will get to social media.  Too often I see too many people looking down at their phones at lunch rather than looking at the people that they are supposed to be spending time with!

Rule #10:  Do the right thing.

Be honest.  Don’t steal, don’t kill, don’t harm others, or myself. Do the right thing and be a good person, speak up against things that I know are wrong.

Rule #11:  Carpe Diem.  Seize the day.

Everyday, even when I don’t feel like it.  Don’t waste time doing things that I don’t want to spend time on.  Of course we all have to do things we don’t feel like doing, but for the most part, I’m going to spend my time doing the things I love with the people I love whenever possible.